I’ll skip most of the saga, but while trying hard to be patient all summer, I kept getting these weird comments from my neurologist’s office suggesting that my May visit might not have been as ambiguous as I came away understanding. Phrases like “probable ALS” and questions about wills and ventilators eventually freaked me out enough that I asked the neurologist to see me again and more clearly explain my status.
So in late August, she repeated the EMG. There wasn’t anything remarkably different, which she said she expected, so we tried to ask more direct questions. It turns out that if there is any lower motor neuron involvement, it’s not PLS. So that possibility was actually out the window in May and we didn’t realize it. I’m not sure how could there have been such a massive breakdown in communication…but there was.
So my diagnosis is currently “probable ALS.” “Definite ALS” requires lower motor neuron abnormalities in three regions (arms, legs, stomach, back, face, etc), I have abnormalities in two. But when we pressed whether it could be anything else besides ALS, she said no.
I can’t fully explain my immediate reaction to the news. It certainly wasn’t relief at the diagnosis, but something like relief to finally get an answer after 11 months on the stress roller coaster of doctors, appointments, tests, medical records, insurance, theories that didn’t pan out, transferring records, new doctors, new tests, new theories.
It meant that I could finally get past the fear-induced paralysis of not knowing and focus on living because I knew. I could stop dreading the worst news because I had it, but when I walked (walked!) out of the hospital, the sun was still shining and I could eat (eat!) pizza and talk (talk!) with my husband and parents.
As reality has set in, there have been MANY breakdowns, tantrums, tears, mind-numbing distractions, and pretty much every depressing thought you can imagine. On a bad day, I’m nothing like the optimistic tone that’s typically in my blog. But after the wave passes, I can usually get back to a sense of peace, gratitude for today, and — above all — a clear perspective on my life priorities. Actually, the fact that I could have had that same news four months ago if only we’d understood her correctly just underscores that I don’t have any more time to waste in this life. I wasted the summer worrying and the news came anyway.
In a wonderfully-timed blog post, Mark Manson asks, “If you knew you were going to die one year from today, what would you do and how would you want to be remembered?”
For most everyone else, this is an abstract question and it’s the last one so most readers probably don’t even get that far (or by then they realize they better get back to work). For me, it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot, even as we all pray I have much longer than a year to live.
My life priorities? Beyond spending as much quality time as possible with family and friends and supporting them as best I can, this is it: To be of service. All my life I have looked for ways to help the people, organizations, and places I’ve been involved with. To look around, see the needs, and try to make a positive difference. Sustainability makes sense as a career choice because, well, the world needs it.
Which leads to Team Drea’s new challenge….and a reminder that everything happens for a reason:
Since I can’t ride my bike, we splurged on a Catrike Pocket recumbent trike, which thanks to the efforts of Kyle Bryant and others, are allowed in USAT triathlons as of this year. I thought it would be sad or dorky, but I love it. Kind of like my own real-life Super Mario Kart (and no worries about forgetting to unclip, win!).
Even though it’s only an 11-mile super sprint and nowhere near the 70.3-mile half Ironman-distance race I did last September, this race will be a major challenge for me. Especially since I wasted the summer worrying and not training. And since I messed up my shoulder in a fall recently and can’t swim at the moment. But no race anxiety this time — I will go out and just have fun with my dear friends who are racing with me and be grateful for whatever I can do that day. Really, I feel bad for anyone racing who’s stressing about coming in last…don’t worry honey, I’ll claim that spot gladly 🙂
I shared my diagnosis with a triathlon Facebook group I’m part of (sometimes it’s just easier to talk in a semi-anonymous setting) and I was overwhelmed with the deluge of kindness from strangers. They started a #Team179 hashtag and several people said they were racing in my honor this season and wrote #179 in sharpie on their shorts, shirts, swim caps, or themselves.
Clearly, Team Drea has a new mission. If you wish to contribute to the Blazeman Foundation as part of Team Drea, please visit my page. The tagline — Jon’s tagline — couldn’t be more fitting: “So Others May Live.”
We are also planning to participate in the 3-mile Walk to Defeat ALS in Washington, DC on November 1st. If you would like to participate, please contact me or leave a note in the comments. We’ll make it a party!
If you have other fundraising ideas, let me know. I would love to work with you to make it happen.
I finally worked up enough courage to finish reading Darcy Wakefield’s I Remember Running: The Year I Got Everything I Ever Wanted – and ALS. Darcy was also diagnosed at 33 and in the same year (2005), met her partner, bought a house, and had a baby. The details are different, of course, but I found myself nodding along with her observations and experiences with the disease — so much so that if I ever wrote a book, I would probably be accused of plagiarism. But the quote that I find myself remembering most often is from the book review, which says:
“As time and the disease progress…[she] seems wiser, braver and more alive than ever.”
I’ll strive for that.
Togo: lead dog of the 1925 Serum Run whose team ran the most miles of the 22 teams that saved the town of Nome, AK from a diptheria epidemic…my Google name. You are on my most favorite people of all time list. Always will be. I had no idea you played French horn…I played baritone horn. Go lower brass! So make that Ramblin Rose yours! Enjoy the moments and finish strong. You always do. Thank you for sharing your life and adventures with me. I would always work for you. 🙂 Hope to see you soon again in DC. We so enjoyed dinner with you and DP. Stay strong.
We would love to walk with you in DC! We are also going to try and get a few friends to walk with us as well, their dad is battling ALS.
We love you so very much!!!!! We will absolutely be there on November 1.
Alison, Tom, Drew, and Zelly
Andrea, my heart is with you … you never cease to amaze me with your strength and outlook! I can't make it to the Walk in DC on November 1st – but I discovered there's a similar Walk for ALS in Boston on October 25th. If you know anyone in the area, I'd love to pull together a "Team Drea"!! Good luck on the 5th. I'll be cheering you on in spirit. Love you so much. Polly
Andrea here — it was pointed out that I should give a little more detail about the Blazeman Foundation, beyond the 179 connection and in light of the $100+M raised by the ice bucket challenge. The foundation is run by Jon's parents, who don't take a salary and 99% of donations go to their four sponsored research projects at Brandeis, Wake Forest, Northwestern, and UMD. The ALS Association (which received most of the ice bucket $) spends about 27% of its funding on research. Not that they're mismanaging funds — they just also spend funding on patient care, advocacy, education etc, obviously very important work. I am excited to see how much progress can be made quickly with such an infusion of cash. Also, someone asked me if I would be offended if they didn't donate…OF COURSE NOT!! I appreciate every like and message. It's just people have been asking how they can help and this is one way. Love you all! ~Andrea
Needless to say, getting to know you is very bittersweet…
I do want to give a bit of background on how we, Jon's parents, took on the foundation Jon started before he passed away. While caring for Jon those months and others ran the foundation…we did not get involved. After Jon passed away we felt that we better than anyone else would keep the focus on what Jon wanted…funding the best research we could find while keeping expenses to a bare minimum…our foundation office is in our home and we are extremely proud of our funding of ALS tissue procurement at the Univ. of MD where Jon donated his tissue. So important for ALS research to study the actual diseased tissue… please visit our website http://www.waronals.org and see all our projects…past and present…our TF # on our website is available to all who wish to call and ask any questions…Thank you, Mary Ann and Bob, Jon's mom and dad
Had the privilege of watching you finish the Ramblin Rose Triathlon today. WOW.
So very incredibly impressive! Congratulations on a great race : )
I am so proud of Andrea…always impressive and always an inspiration. Vivian
Well done, Super Woman!
SOOO very proud of you for completing today's race, and I would be even more proud to walk by your side on November 1!!! Is it too late to join Team Drea? Let me know!
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